You may already know me as one of the following:
Author of Safe Spaces book & multiple best-selling healing, personal development and self-mastery courses.
Personal and Professional development Master Mentor & Mentor Trainer
Certified MBTI® practitioner
Certified HHHL Instructor and Mentor
Certified Brand Manager
Certified Classical & Orthopedic Massage Therapist & Physical Pain Management Professional.
My most treasured pieces of work are the Safe Spaces book, the 4 People Within®, INFx Unveiled, and the Integration Mentor Programs.
When I'm not supporting others with their healing, development and self-mastery work, I'm having lunch with my beloved partner Peter, or spending time with our dogs!
In case you need more... FAQ Merja
How long have you done personality decoding and/or mentoring?
I have been coaching and mentoring since 1996. My coaching career includes
4 People Within® mentoring
HHHL Instructorship & Mentoring
Small and medium size Business coaching
High Performance & Physiology coaching
Sedona Method Facilitation
How did you end up in the personality development field?
Ever since I was 16, I have been helping others proactively, be it in assistance coaching in soccer or supporting my peer equestrians. Being in a supportive role has always been easy for me. When I "grew up" and began working with people, my initial supportive role was with coaching people how to look after their bodies. Within my classical and orthopedic massage and pain management clinic, I began to work with cellular memory and psychosomatic issues. The new disciplines yielded such powerful results, that I finally started working full time within the realm of personal development in 2012.
What is your story?
Ever since my abusive childhood, I have been fascinated by the reason why and how. Why do people behave like they do? Why do people who profess to love one another, hurt each other? And most of all, what can be done about it. There was a lot of confusion in my mind about what was acceptable and what was normal. It took me a while, but when I realized that people who are hurt, hurt others, it all started making sense. Before this realization, relationships felt chaotic and I even doubted if I was built for sharing true intimacy with others. I begun to see a path forward when I learnt about cellular memory, psycho-somatic injuries and how our inner wiring dictates what we do. For the first time I saw myself clearly, and I saw others as they were, not through the eyes of my confusion. I took what I learned, earned the relevant qualifications and started helping others with untangling their relationships. And that’s what I do now - I show deep thinkers how to heal and grow their relationships through the same personality decoding process that I created for myself.
What are you specialized in at decoding?
I specialize in helping deep feelers break their relationship patterns and have happy and healthy relationships. I do this with the support of Linda Parelli's Elements model, the Myers-Briggs® personality inventory system, and my 4 People Within® approach.
What was the big turning point of your career?
Before my breakthrough I thought that everyone should only have one specialty in business. When I realized that it's not true for me, my professional life took off. This realization freed me to do my most meaningful work, be it with personality decoding, business coaching and branding, or working with an equestrian who wants a better relationship with their horse.
Where do you see yourself in 5 and or 10 years?
Because of the massive joy and satisfaction I get from my life and work, I don't think that my life will be much different than how it is right now. Having said that, I will always continue to grow and evolve.
What change would you like to see in yourself?
I am always striving for growth. Right now I'm working with expanding my personal passions in life.
What change would you like to see in the world?
I would like to see more joyous, compassionate and effective leadership in the world. I want to see companies whose productivity originates from inspiration and enthusiasm, not from force and constant need for motivation.
Who has inspired you in your life? To become a mentor? Personality decoder?
I know it may sound corny, but every person and horse I have worked with. If I see an opening to grow, I take it. Most of the time the muse for my growth is every student I ever meet. My students drive me to be better.
What personality type are you?
I am an INFJ.
My 4 People Within® are the Witness, the Unifier, the Scientist and the Investigator.
I am an Enneagram 1-2-5 (for a very long time I have been typed as 2).
I am also a RBI in the Humanality model.
How did the different personality profiling tools you use help you in your life?
They helped me realise that there is actually nothing wrong with me, I'm just wired differently, and that's ok. It was a highly validating experience that paved a way for my healing and development journey, as well as my life's work: the 4 People Within®. The tools I now use with my students literally changed every aspect of my life: personal and professional.
Where else can I find your work?
We have built our own online healing, development and self-mastery academy, at www.sumiloff.com. It is an application/invitation only space reserved for those who take their personal development seriously.
What are your qualifications?
Master Integration Mentor (SAHIIMM)
MBTI® Certified Practitioner
International Therapy Examination Council (ITEC)
Classical and Orthopedic Massage certificates
Equine and Agricultural Science qualification
Brand Management certificate from University of London.
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