FAQ MERJA SUMILOFF
How long have you done personality decoding and/or mentoring?
I have been coaching and mentoring since 1996. My coaching career includes
4 People Within mentoring
Small and medium size Business coaching
Sports specific coaching and mentoring
How did you end up in the personality development field?
Ever since I was 16, I have been helping others proactively, be it in assistance coaching in soccer or supporting my peer equestrians. Being in a supportive role has always been easy for me. When I "grew up" and began working with people, my initial supportive role was with coaching people how to look after their bodies. Within my classical and orthopedic massage and pain management clinic, I began to work with cellular memory and psychosomatic issues. The new disciplines yielded such powerful results, that I finally started working full time within the realm of personal development in 2012.
What is your story?
Ever since my abusive childhood, I have been fascinated by the reason why and how. Why do people behave like they do? Why do people who profess to love one another, hurt each other? And most of all, what can be done about it. There was a lot of confusion in my mind about what was acceptable and what was normal. It took me a while, but when I realized that people who are hurt, hurt others, it all started making sense. Before this realization, relationships felt chaotic and I even doubted if I was built for sharing true intimacy with others. I begun to see a path forward when I learnt about cellular memory, psycho-somatic injuries and how our inner wiring dictates what we do. For the first time I saw myself clearly, and I saw others as they were, not through the eyes of my confusion. I took what I learned, earned the relevant qualifications and started helping others with untangling their relationships. And that’s what I do now - I show deep thinkers how to heal and grow their relationships through the same personality decoding process that I created for myself.
What are you specialized in at decoding?
I specialize in helping deep thinkers break their relationship patterns and have happy and healthy relationships. I do this with the support of the Myers-Briggs personality inventory system combined with cognitive functionality, facet pair work and my 4 People Within work.
What was the big turning point of your career?
When I realized that you don't have to be perfect to still be of immense value.
Where do you see yourself in 5 and or 10 years?
Because of the massive joy and satisfaction I get from my life and work, I don't think that my life will be much different than how it is right now. Having said that, I will always continue to grow and evolve.
What change would you like to see in yourself?
I am always striving for growth. Right now I'm working with expanding my personal passions in life.
What change would you like to see in the world?
I would like to see more compassionate and effective leadership in the world. You don't have to choose between the 2. You can have both.
Who has inspired you in your life? To become a mentor? Personality decoder?
I know it may sound corny, but every person I have worked with. If I see an opening to grow, I take it. Most of the time the muse for my growth is every client I ever meet. My clients drive me to be better.
What personality type are you?
I am an INFJ.
My 4 People Within are the Witness, the Unifier, the Scientist and the Investigator.
I am an Enneagram 1-2-5 (for a very long time I have been typed as 2).
How did MBTI Assessment help you in your life?
It helped me realise that there is actually nothing wrong with me, I'm just wired differently, and that's ok. It was a highly validating experience that paved a way for my healing and development journey, as well as my life's work: the 4 People Within. MBTI has literally changed every aspect of my life: personal and professional.
Where else can I find your work?
We are in the process of building our own social platform network. When it's ready, it'll be at www.sumiloff.com. It is an application/invitation only space reserved for those who take their personal development seriously. Other than that, you can find me on YouTube and facebook.
What are your qualifications?
Master Integration Mentor (SAHIIMM)
MBTI Certified Practitioner
International Therapy Examination Council (ITEC)
Classical and Orthopedic Massage certificates
Equine and Agricultural Science qualification
Brand Management certificate from University of London.
What other material and / or courses are you offering?
Over the years, I have created a catalog of personal development courses. If I was to play favorites, here are my top 3:
The 4 People Within - a 6-month personal development journey to master your life and create intentional outcomes
INFx Unveiled - a custom-made healing course for INFJs and INFPs of the Myers-Briggs system
Integration Mentor Program - a coaching/mentoring training program that shows the student how to become a kick-ass coach, as well as how to build and run a successful mentoring practice. This program is only open to our 4 People Within students, as the 4PW framework plays an integral part of the coaching/mentoring training journey.
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